The verification standard

Three states, shown honestly

Most directories print one gold “verified” sticker on everything, which makes the badge worth nothing. This site uses three states and shows the unverified ones as unverified.

• ◆ ID & video verified — a government ID checked against a live video call, with photographs matched to that call. Valid for 90 days, then it lapses on its own.
• ● Photo verified only — photographs confirmed by reverse-image search and a timed selfie. Identity not confirmed.
• ○ Not verified — nothing checked yet. Listed openly and labelled as such.

The badge is not stored as a flag someone can leave switched on. It is derived from the last check and its expiry date, so a lapsed verification drops to “not verified” by itself — nobody has to remember to downgrade it.

Consent and removal

Consent is recorded per listing, with the version of the terms it was given under, and it is re-confirmed at every check rather than once at signup. Changing the terms later cannot retroactively widen what somebody agreed to.

A listing can be closed by the person in it on the same day, without a reason and without asking anyone else first. Withdrawing consent removes the listing from every public page immediately — that rule lives in the database itself, not in application code that could forget it.

If a photograph of you appears here and you did not agree to it, the listing comes down first and the questions happen afterwards.

Reporting a listing

Anyone can report a listing from its own page — the link sits next to the contact details, not buried in a footer.

Reports about coercion, someone under 18, or non-consensual images suspend the listing the moment they are filed, before any human looks at them. Everything else goes into a queue. Age is also constrained at the data level: a listing under 18 cannot be written to the database at all.

What verification does not tell you

It confirms that a person exists, that the photographs are of her, and that she agreed to be listed. It says nothing about what any meeting will be like, and it is not a recommendation. A badge is a fact about a record, not a promise about a person.

The directory publishes advertisements. It is not a party to anything agreed between the people who use it, takes no booking fee and no commission.